The BIG Girls Code Secret to Building Confidence
I get asked often about why I’m so confident. A lot of my confidence comes from the strength, the perseverance, & the power I draw from my family, my culture, & my history. As a Central American, I come from a long line of war survivors. I wasn’t born to kneel but to hold my head high. But when I was 11, we moved from Guatemala to the US & I struggled with the US’s imposition of beauty standards & becoming a teen. As I my curves continued to grow in all the right places, my Salvadoran grandmother & aunt were very vocal about how gorda I was. My confidence plummeted.
As mujeres we have to start believing that we are beautiful! If we don’t think kindly of ourselves how can we expect others to be kind to us? I know it’s hard, believe me I lived in self-hate for a long time. But try practicing looking in the mirror and really look at yourself. Find one thing you love about yourself, a freckle, a dimple, your eyes. Compliment that part of yourself out loud, believe it, and let that truth sink into your bones. If you need to write it down and tape it on your mirror. I started this exercise when I was 14 and battling an eating disorder and depression. As the months and years went by you may find that the things you love about yourself start growing and they become your truth. It sounds silly but in this small act of kindness you are nurturing yourself, feeding your soul by showing yourself the self-love you’re starved for.
People in our lives will inevitably hurt us and say mean things to bring us down. Thats why I want you and me to be kinder to ourselves and each other and thats how we will begin healing each other, ourselves, letting our love grow! As Gloria E. Anzaldua said, “I love myself, I change the world”. The big girls code revolution, starts at home in front of a mirror.
La Chica Mas Fina